How the Manosphere Feeds the Ego, but Starves the Soul

Have you ever met someone with a punchable face…and even more punchable opinions?

In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O’Malley and Dr. Liz Powell endure the pain of hearing from a man who claims celibacy taught him that he’s “too smart to find love,” and though he comes close, he never actually considers the problems might just be…him.

Reading The Telegraph’s article from the man himself, Mattha Busby, they break down his actual problems in finding love (spoiler alert: it’s him), what might actually help him, and offer up new perspectives on what “intelligence,” “cleverness,” and “wit” actually entail.

Highlights of the episode:

• A men’s group that makes you make vows with an axe??

• Dr. Liz and Harris’ first pop culture crushes (kids today just don’t understand)

• Knowing who David Bowie is isn’t a sign of intelligence

If you’re a smarty-pants and you want to get into other smarty-pants’ pants, then this episode is for you! Dr. Liz and Harris share how to actually find folks whose interests align with yours, without being a major jerk in the process.

Time Stamps

00:00 - Intro and Doc Holliday shout-out

01:20 - The article: “Celibacy Taught Me I’m Too Clever to Find Love”

03:00 - Red flags and a punchable face

05:50 - Education ≠ intelligence

10:45 - “My girlfriends were hot but dumb” 🤢

14:00 - Being witty vs being an asshole

17:30 - Treating women as interchangeable roles

20:00 - Finding a wife vs building a partnership

23:30 - The illusion of intellectual superiority

26:30 - Why people don’t text back

29:00 - What are you actually offering in a relationship?

33:00 - Cleverness as a defense mechanism

36:00 - Performance vs real conversation

40:00 - Attraction is socially conditioned

54:00 - Curiosity vs judgment

1:00:00 - You’re a soggy saltine

1:14:00 - Conclusion and where to find us

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