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March 26, 2026

You’re Not Owed a Chance

Hot take that @DrNerdLove and @DrLizPowell think should be a cold take: you aren’t actually owed a chance for a date. Is it unfair? Yeah. Can it hurt your feelings? Totally, trust us. Been there, done that. And, do you give everyone that you’ve ever known a chance? Hello no!…

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March 25, 2026

Ep 4. Modern Tech Won’t Solve Your Trust Issues

Where do you draw the line between calling out cheaters and a surveillance state? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrNerdLove and @DrLizPowell dive deep (deep 😉) into the surveillance nightmare that is Cheater Buster’s facial recognition software. While their hearts go out to folks who’ve been cheated on, they also…

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March 20, 2026

Do You Want to Know?

Your relationship is either open or closed. No amount of rules will change that. And when one partner wants to be open, and the other wants to be closed, there’s no compromise that doesn’t end in heartbreak. And that’s exactly the feeling Lily Allen sings about in Ruminating. In Episode…

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March 19, 2026

Misogynist Army

Sometimes it feels like the internet is just waiting for a woman to say something negative about a beloved man so they can unleash all the misogyny they’ve been holding back. Lily Allen releasing West End Girl wasn’t like Beyoncé dropping Lemonade. She wasn’t protected by being, well, by being…

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March 17, 2026

Adding to the Fire

It’s really hard to be the person who actually lights the fire. It’s easier to add kerosene when you know you’re not alone. And boy, oh boy, when Lily Allen lit that fire under David Harbour, people were ready to keep it going. Tune into Episode 3 of @doaswesaypod for…

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March 12, 2026

The Burden on Women in Breakups

It’s expected in straight relationships for the woman to stay quiet. She’s gotta keep her shit together and make sure his reputation stays picture perfect. But Lily Allen said, “F that.” Instead of doing damage control for a man who hurt her, she wrote a whole album telling the world…

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March 11, 2026

What Do Women Win?

Where’s the mansion? Where’s the check? Where’s the win? 🤔 Almost every time a woman speaks out against a powerful man, they lose. She becomes the butt of every late-night joke, or she gets blacklisted from her industry. The cost of coming forward is always more than the supposed rewards,…

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March 11, 2026

Ep 3. We Need to Talk About Madeline: Or the r/Polyamory Musical

You’ve had some dramatic breakups, but have you ever had a relationship that ended with an album full of bangers about dysfunction, heartbreak, and anger? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrLizPowelland@DrNerdLovebreak down Lily Allen’s therapeutic divorce album, West End Girl. And I gotta tell ya, they’re so here for seeing…

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March 6, 2026

Why You Shouldn’t Use AI in Your Relationships

If you’re bad at flirting or talking to people, there’s only one way to get better: Keep being bad at it! 👏 Practice is the only way through. If you’re asking AI to be a modern-day Cyrano, you’re only going to make your own communication skills worse (and you might…

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March 5, 2026

The Truth About Lying in Relationships

When everyone’s swiping to find love, it’s tempting to embellish (read: lie) your profile, or even let ChatGPT write the perfect pick up line. But, we gotta be honest: If your relationships is built on lies, it’s already dead. It’s been dead. So, be yourself, use your own words! There’s…

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March 3, 2026

The Harsh Truth About Relationships

So, you pulled a baddie. Congrats! 🥳 But now…other people still want them. Here’s the real test, do you: 1️⃣ Celebrate how hot your partner is and build trust 2️⃣ Start tearing them down or give insults wrapped up in compliments? (If you’re doing #2, we need to talk.) Chances…

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Feb. 26, 2026

Just Be a Person

Worried about dating? Worried you aren’t as suave and smooth as you should be to get someone’s attention? Well, you’ve come to the right place because we’ve got advice. The secret to dating is: 1️⃣ Be curious 2️⃣ Ask questions 3️⃣ Show up as yourself Boom. You’ve already cleared the…

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Feb. 25, 2026

Ep 2. Backhanded Compliments & Surprise Prayer Meetings

If you expected a date and ended up at a Jehovah’s Witness meeting, what would you do? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod , @DrNerdLove and @DrLizPowell unpack the wonderfully cursed waters of Reddit relationship stories. First up: a man whose compliments feel more like insults. Then, a surprising trip to…

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Feb. 23, 2026

Death Is a Part of Life

Nothing lasts forever, and people have been trying to cope with that fact since… forever. Death is sad and painful, and it’s something we spend our entire lives learning to live with. But it’s also the reason love, connection, and being here mean as much as they do and are…

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Feb. 20, 2026

Thoughts on AI Therapists

Yes, therapy uses tools and modalities to help you grow, heal, or find healthy coping mechanisms. But the core of therapy is the relationship that you build and that exists for you. Your other relationships aren’t only about you. They’re about you and the other person. So how is that…

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Feb. 18, 2026

Pack Bonding with Robot Vacuums

Humans will anthropomorphize ANYTHING. My roomba? You mean my klutzy maid whose trying her best? 😉 My laptop? Oh, you mean my emotional support device? 💻 It’s easy to forget that humans are animals, but we are. We love to give personality and names and even gender to non-human things…

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Feb. 16, 2026

Healing from PTSD

“Healed” and “healing” are different, and we gotta say, healing is often a painful and uncomfortable process. It’s a “it gets worse before it gets better” kind of process. ⛰️ When a bone heals incorrectly, you have to rebreak and reset it. And, yeah, it’s going to hurt like an…

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Feb. 13, 2026

Dumped for a Chat Bot

Hearing “There’s someone else” is devastating, but finding out that “someone” is essentially Clippy? That hits a little different. Human relationships come with friction. Even if you’re a communication pro, there’s going to be disagreements, misunderstandings, and tough conversations because we’re all just messy weirdos. (Peep the shirt 😉) But…

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Feb. 11, 2026

It’s Not You, I’m In Love with AI

Extra! Extra! 📢 The first episode of @DoAsWeSayPod is live, and it’s a doozy! Join your hosts, @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove as we dig into one journalist’s surreal experience on a weekend getaway with three AI chatbots and the people who love them. Together, they unpack: ✨ Why AI relationships feel…

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Feb. 11, 2026

Ep 1. Three AI Chatbots Walk Into a Couple’s Retreat

Would you trade in your human partner for an AI chatbot? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O’Malley discuss the hilarious highs and unnerving lows of human-AI relationships chronicled in Wired Magazine. As capital H AI-Haters, Harris and Dr.…

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Feb. 9, 2026

Single Is Better

“Women would rather be single than date you.” Yep, we said. 👀 @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove are starting a dating podcast, and our advice is be single?? Not exactly. On Do As We Say, Not As They Did, we’re here to give you all the dating dos and don’ts from the…

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Feb. 8, 2026

Episode One Releases on February 11th!

PAUSE. 😮 @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove are starting a podcast, and they’re talking about what?!?! That’s right! You heard it here first, folks. We’re hosting the only dating podcast where the dating advice is sometimes wrapped up in an article all about men who are really, really concerned with that final…

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Feb. 8, 2026

It Doesn't Have to Happen

“I tripped and fell into them!” “It was just an accident!” “It’s gonna happen anyway, so you might as well accept it.” Yeah…we don’t buy that either. That’s why @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove are starting a dating podcast to talk about the messy and complicated dating red flags in other people’s…

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