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June 17, 2026

Ep 14. What Do Men Do When Women Don’t Need Them?

Does a woman earning more than a man in a relationship make you feel some type of way? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove jump right into The Guardian’s article, “Single women are buying more houses. The men they are dating are not responding well,” and talk about…

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June 15, 2026

Heated Rivalry Can Cure Male Loneliness 🏒

Look, @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove believe that there is a male loneliness epidemic, AND we’re pretty sure we have the cure: 🏒 Heated Rivalry 🏒 Because, while yes, we all love the steamy relationship between Shane and Ilya, at its core, Heated Rivalry is about men talking about their feelings. And…

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June 13, 2026

You Know Nothing About Chefs, Bro

Only cis het dudes believe that women want tall, rich, supermodel-looking men. When all it takes is one watch of Chef to know that what women want is a man who can cook a great meal, take care of himself, and contribute to the household. 🥵 💦 When you act…

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June 12, 2026

Time Moves in One Direction

One of the easiest traps to fall into in relationships is believing that the early excitement is the “real” version of love, and that anything calmer or more familiar must mean something has gone wrong. But the truth is that no relationship stays in that honeymoon phase forever (that would…

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June 11, 2026

The Male Loneliness Epidemic Isn’t Women’s Job

Everyone’s chiming in on the male loneliness epidemic lately. But @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove want you to pay attention to how it’s framed. Too often, the solution people propose isn’t men building deeper friendships and learning emotional regulation skills. Nope. Women should fix it. Women should lower their standards or just…

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June 10, 2026

Shaving Is New

Fun (or maybe not so fun) fact: Women didn’t start shaving their body hair until the 40s and 50s. When all the men were off at war, Big Razor needed to find a new way to make money. And what better way to make money than to make women feel…

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June 10, 2026

Ep 13. How Misogyny Ruins Relationships

We have a question for you: Do you actually want a partner, or are you just looking for someone to call your girlfriend? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrNerdLove and @DrLizPowell share two Reddit stories that reveal just how much the manosphere has poisoned modern dating, and the actual work…

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June 9, 2026

Let Old People Have Fun!

Old people are still getting busy, they’re going to all kinds of parties, and they’re 100% trying new relationship structures. There is nothing more delightful than seeing 50+ year old couples still fully enjoying life and deciding that getting older doesn’t mean they have to stop having adventures. Because, as…

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June 8, 2026

Relationships Require Communication

Healthy relationships require communication. Polyamory requires approximately 47 additional follow-up conversations, and a shared Google calendar doesn’t hurt either. 😉 Polyamory representation in the media leaves a lot of be desired, so a lot of people get into non-monogamy thinking it’s just a dating free-for-all, only to discover it’s actually:…

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June 7, 2026

Non-Monogamy Exposes Your Approach to Relationships

A lot of people think non-monogamy is just monogamy with more people. It’s not. Opening a relationship tends to expose every communication issue, insecurity, attachment wound, boundary problem, and emotional blind spot that was already there…just way faster and way louder. In the latest episode of @DoAsWeSayPod , @DrLizPowell and…

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June 4, 2026

How Much Suffering Can You Endure to Stay Together

Getting into a relationship doesn’t mean you stop growing. Sometimes people grow together, and sometimes they grow in different directions. And that doesn’t mean that you or your partner failed. No one has to be the villain at all. Two people can deeply love each other and still realize that…

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June 4, 2026

Ep 12. Polyamory Won’t Fix Your Relationship, but It Sure Will Expose It w/ Kristen VanKlootwyk

What happens when people open a relationship without unpacking everything monogamy taught them first? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrNerdLove and @DrLizPowell sit down with Kristen, psychotherapist and co-creator of @TheNonMonogamyCardGame, to talk about the communication that doesn’t always happen in poly relationships…but really should. Then, they discuss two struggling…

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May 28, 2026

Seeing People As People

It’s always fascinating when someone thinks they’re the smartest person in the room…while showing absolutely zero curiosity about anyone else in it. Like, imagine dismissing entire interests, subcultures, or ways of thinking as “low intelligence” just because they’re not your thing. Meanwhile, those “low-brow” pursuits have layers, context, and meaning…

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May 27, 2026

Cleverness As Defensiveness

When you read a headline like “Celibacy Taught Me I’m Too Clever to Find Love,” what are you expecting? An introspective breakdown of how someone uses wit to keep people at arm’s length, or a long-winded circle jerk about how women are dumb and *gasp* don’t automatically know who David…

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May 27, 2026

Ep 11. How the Manosphere Feeds the Ego, but Starves the Soul

Have you ever met someone with a punchable face…and even more punchable opinions? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrNerdLove and @DrLizPowell endure the pain of hearing from a man who claims celibacy taught him that he’s “too smart to find love,” and though he comes close, he never actually considers…

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May 25, 2026

Why Can’t Men Have Pink Options

Toxic masculinity limits men in every part of life, including pleasure. On the latest episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrLizPowell, @DrNerdLove, and and Step (they/them) from Cute Little Fkers talk about why so many adult toys for 🍆 havers are still trapped in this idea that everything has to look “manly” to…

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May 21, 2026

We Need to Find Our Joy

Color, fun, joy, and yes, finding pleasure through adult toys are all important parts of fighting fascism. Especially when those toys are made with queer and trans folks in mind and designed to be accessible for all kinds of bodies. Don’t believe us? Tune into the latest episode of @DoAsWeSayPod…

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May 20, 2026

We Need More Gender Evil and Gender Chaotic

Gender good. Gender neutral. Gender evil. Gender chaotic. Which one are you? 😈 On the latest episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove are joined by Step, founder of Cute Little Fkers and certified embodiment of gender chaos, to talk about why “gender neutral” so often means bland, gray, and stripped…

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May 20, 2026

Ep 10. Why Every Body Benefits from Accessible Adult Toys w/ Step Tranovich

There have been a lot of advancements in the adult toy industry over the last ten years, so why are toys for men and AMAB folks still stuck in the dark ages? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O’Malley…

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May 18, 2026

Men - Here's How to Be Attractive

Men keep searching for the “cheat code” to being more attractive, and then they completely ignore those answers when they’re not complicated enough??? So here you go: @DrNerdLove and @DrLizPowell foolproof, no BS ways to be more attractive: ⏩ Learn how to dance ⏩ Learn how to cook Bam! You’re…

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May 15, 2026

I Refuse to Suffer Alone

If @DrNerdLove has to suffer about learning through looksmaxxing…then @DrLizPowell has to suffer too. And unfortunately for you? That means we’re not suffering alone. 😉 Because as ridiculous as these dudes can sound, this mindset is getting more mainstream by the day, and it doesn’t always show up as “I’m…

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May 14, 2026

I Don't Care About Face Math

Have you ever found someone attractive…and then they opened their mouth? 🥲 The second you start talking about the ratios of your face and getting into the phrenology of it all, you’ve lost us. Talk about a mood killer. @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove really don’t care to hear about your face…

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May 13, 2026

Hardmaxxing Is Denying Your Grief

@DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove are fully in favor of people feeling their best. Get the haircut, wear the outfit, do the skincare routine. If it helps you feel confident enough to actually connect with other people? Incredible. No notes! But looksmaxxing isn’t really about confidence. It’s about performing manliness and suffering…

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May 13, 2026

Ep 9. The Lie Incels and Looksmaxxers Are Trying to Sell You

Looksmaxxing promises a simple solution: get hotter, get laid. So why are so many men following it…and still miserable? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O’Malley and Dr. Liz Powell explore the ugly, uglier, and ugliest sides of the looksmaxxing incel communities that,…

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